Make Your Life Cozy

Just add tea and a book..

One of my favourite comments recently was from the Stir-Fried Dinosaur, who said that my blog was cozy. Isn’t that just the nicest? Thank you! This made me particularly happy because I try very hard to keep my life as cozy as possible. Today I’m going to share with you how I achieve coziness, and how you can too!

My Definition of Cozy:

1. Making your life work for you, so that your personal spaces always feel like home

2. Knowing what you love, and doing it

3. Feeling luxurious in your own way

How To Cozi-fy Your Life

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1. Making your life work for you.

This means making the most of what you have. You may not have an unlimited budget, or you may not have unlimited space, or you may not have unlimited time to make your spaces perfect. What’s important is that you prioritize. What means the most to you? What will make you feel the most at home when you get home? Is it a big library? A doggie? Big windows and an easy chair? Photos of family and friends? Lots of delicious food? Zero in on what is most important, and make your lifestyle work around that. Budget your time, energy and money carefully in order to get the most out of your life, and the spaces you spend it in.

Marjorie Hillis’s book, Live Alone and Like It, was a bible written for the modern 1930’s woman, but still manages to be remarkably current. It’s one of my favourite books, and I always read it whenever I want to amp up the luxury/cozy in my life. She speaks about the importance of having a home that you really feel at home in, and how just because nobody will necessarily see your home, doesn’t mean you don’t need to make it fabulous! The time you spend nestled up in your rooms should give you lots of happiness – nobody will be happy and inspired if they don’t bother to make an effort in their living spaces!

2. Knowing what you love.

For many people, this is very intuitive. When we walk into a store, we can immediately say exactly what we love and what we hate. But I’m not talking so much about material possessions so much as routines and habits. Chances are there are many little things that make you very happy, but maybe you’re not doing them every day. And why not? What should stop you from incorporating as much happiness and coziness into your daily routines? Maybe for you your favourite thing is:

  • a quiet half hour reading with some tea
  • a long walk outdoors
  • a bubble bath
  • painting
  • people-watching in a café
  • spending rainy days in a record store
  • dancing.
  • skipping stones
  • driving aimlessly
  • spending Saturdays at the Farmer’s Market
  • exploring bookshops
  • drinking your orange juice out of a huge glass
  • making music
  • wrestling with your dog
  • napping
  • swimming
  • taking extra-long showers
  • mood lighting
  • listening to music without lyrics
  • etc.

The point is to make your life cozy you need to make time for the things that you love. I know,  you’re busy, burnt out and have no time for such frivolous things, right?. To that I say two things:

  1. You will continue to be perpetually burnt out and unproductive if you never take any time to relax or make yourself happy.
  2. Frivolous things? This is your life! If you keep your nose to the grindstone day in and day out, you’re going to wake up in fifty years and realize you haven’t really lived or been happy.

So take the time. Don’t deny yourself time to do exactly what makes you happy. You probably already spend a few hours a day mindlessly watching television or surfing the internet, so you likely do have the time! And of course t.v and internet make people happy as well, but once in a while it’s refreshing to spend some quality time, creating memories and happiness. And coziness, of course!

3. Feeling luxurious in your own way.

In addition to ‘daily happiness upkeep’, you should also treat yourself every so often. And don’t worry if your idea of a special treat differs from someone else’s, you’re you and they’re them. Don’t ever let other people dictate how you should live your life or spend your money. They’re probably just jealous anyhow, that you have such a cozy life! Some extra-luxe ideas for ultimate coziness:

  • Get a milkshake
  • Spend extra for something you really love: a type of tea, notebook, bed sheets, perfume/cologne, a mug
  • Breakfast in bed
  • Keep your house stocked with cookies, homemade if possible
  • Spray eucalyptus/lavender spray on your pillows
  • Invest in a bed tray – it will change your life
  • Get fresh flowers weekly, if you like them


So there you have it! Three simple ways to squeeze every drop of coziness out of your life. I’m not advocating frivolity, neglect of your daily duties or blowing all your money on expensive things to make your space better for you. It’s all about moderation, simple luxuries and getting the most out of your life. Take the time to think about what parts of your day you love best, and see if you can find a way to amplify that positivity throughout your day. Surround yourself with things you find beautiful and cheerful, and I bet you’ll find yourself more cheerful too :).

What sorts of cozy things do you try to incorporate into your life? What do you spend extra money on? What are your personal luxuries? What makes you happy!?

xoxo, S.

17 thoughts on “Make Your Life Cozy”

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  2. This post is super awesome! With the heavy workload that im going through right now, i always thought doing things that make me happy is a waste of time. But i guess you’re right, its better to give in to the little pleasures of life rather than make another day go by without feeling happy. Thanks for sharing :) Btw, I love how you express your thoughts so clearly.

  3. Awww! I’m way honored to have had anything to do with the inspiration of such a nice post! Thank you for this. I try my best to live cozily too, but your tips may help me perfect the craft. Well done, miss!

  4. What an inspirational post! I hope you don’t mind me linking you?! :)

    What makes me happy are long walks with my best friend, cooking, reading and sleeping next to the person every night who I love the most :)

    1. Of course you may! I’m honoured! Thanks for the compliment. I hope that more and more coziness finds a way to sneak into your life. :)

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  6. Hey I came here on the recommendation of foodlovingpolarbear and I’m glad I did, such a lovely post. I have just gone to amazon and bought the book you mentioned! I try to love a cozy life, lots of baking, relaxing baths and long walks for me when the weather is nice!

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  11. Hi Stephanie. I stumbled into this post and am glad I did. About to share it on my Facebook page for Bliss This Home because your suggestions are very aligned with my positive home enhancement services. There are certainly ways to “amp up the cozy” with STUFF, but lifestyle and habits at home are just as important for happiness and well-being… actually more important! Your lists of suggestions are great so that folks can consider/clarify what’s important, what brings happiness, what’s luxurious, how they want to spend their time, etc. And though I haven’t read the book you mentioned, sounds like a good read for anyone craving a cozy, happy home — whether living alone or with others. Cheers from Boston MA!

  12. Susan Buckley

    I absolutely loved everything you mentioned. I do all of those things for myself and they make me feel so nurtured and loved! Thank you for sharing your beautiful post with all of us… to many wonderful and cozy days ahead :)

      1. Akbar Syahrudin

        Hi stephanie. My IG Account has been shadow banned too. I am frustrating right now. How can i get out of this situation?

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