Inspiration: November 1

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Inspiration: November 1 >> Life In Limbo

I was really intrigued by this idea to use the time change to your advantage and start getting up earlier! May try this.

This week I bought a shower curtain from Wild Woven Collection, which I am so excited about! My bathroom is slowly taking on a pink theme, and their hand-painted textiles will fit in perfectly.

I loved this reflection from Jess of Free Label about the process of shopping for her wedding dress. I think the wedding industry is bananas and it was beautiful to hear how she navigated it while retaining her sanity.

I haven’t yet had the chance to actually read through this “Guide to Life” document, but it looks to be full of interesting tidbits. AND, it’s inspiring me to make a Guide to Life of my own!

I was inspired by the story of how our city rallied together to take a stand for trans people in the face of a hateful trans-exclusionary event at the library.

This week’s blog posts: Writing On the Wall, Scrappiness, Not Scarcity, Decision Arcs, and A Normal Day.


Fewer links today because I did less reading this week! It was another busy one, full of lovely client sessions, a haunted house concert, and putting together the sales pages & checkout process for my first ever retreat! I can’t wait to tell you more about it next week. For now, I’m signing off and looking forward to a quiet weekend. I have a book club meeting and a brunch with my sister, but otherwise I will be taking some much-needed time to myself to rest & read. I hope you have a wonderful weekend too! xo

A Normal Day

Today is the first day in a couple weeks that feels like a “normal” work day. It promises to be a simple day without any appointments, just lots of time for me to fill with the things I need to get done.

It felt so good to wake up this morning with “nowhere to be” (until at my computer for office hours at 12pm), with the whole day stretching out in front of me. I was able to sleep in a little to make up for how tired I’ve been feeling lately. I made time to make a cup of tea. And now I’m writing this without worrying what time it is or thinking about everything I need to do.

I am well aware of how ironic it is that this kind of day suddenly feels like a rarity for me. I work for myself and generally I work from home! You’d think that my schedule would constantly be wide open and full of freedom. Not so. That joke about people working for themselves having the worst boss in the world? It’s kind of true, but it doesn’t have to be.

Today, on this normal work day, I am putting a task on my to-do list entitled: “Plan out an ideal week & calendar block”. The thing is, if there’s space on the calendar, it will usually get filled. Before I know it, I’ll end up at the beginning of the week looking at my calendar and wondering how everything got there.

I know I can be more proactive about making sure that my time is structured to support me in how I work best, and how I can best serve my clients. I know I can block off space for my most productive work hours. I know I can build in time for me to have a lovely morning routine, and a lunch break, and to stop working at a reasonable time.

The trick is to get super intentional about it. Create the boundaries I need. Make space for what matters. Clear the path towards the schedule I want. Cut things out. So today, on this normal day, I plan to do that for the next couple months. Hopefully there will be many more normal days in my future.

Decision Arcs

I’m an underbuyer, which means I have a really hard time spending money on anything, including necessities like toilet paper. In general, I think this tendency serves me well, but sometimes it gets in the way of me spending money to solve a problem.

A couple months ago, my friend Sonja said something really interesting about a purchasing decision I was trying to make. I was hemming and hawing, going back and forth, worrying and thinking through every possible option. Eventually, she asked me: “Where in the arc of this decision are you?” and it suddenly became very clear. I immediately pictured a rainbow-shaped arc, and I was well past the hump and approaching the bottom on the other side. I had essentially made my decision already, but I just hadn’t quite finalized it. 

On the other hand, I could easily picture how other decisions (things I never bought!) were on the ascending part of the rainbow but couldn’t quite seem to get over the hump. There was enough of a financial barrier, or an emotional one, to keep me on this side of the arc.

She didn’t explain what this visual metaphor meant to her, but for me it’s now a staple in my decision-making process. Last night, I was hemming and hawing over whether or not to purchase the most expensive (but hopefully the highest quality) tights I’ve ever had. I kept going back and forth, but when I pictured the arc, I knew I was over the hump. I’d looked them up a bunch of times, I’d converted the USD into Canadian, I’d looked at the sizing guide to figure out what I needed. I had made the decision, I just needed to slide down the last bit of the rainbow on the other side. 

I like this visual, because it doesn’t help me trick myself so much as show me where I’m already at. All the other reasons and worries can creep in, but if I picture the arc, I know where things stand.

Scrappiness, Not Scarcity

This idea came to me in my mastermind meeting yesterday while we were thinking about how to shift one’s mindset out of a place of scarcity.

When we live in scarcity, we feel like we need to be all things to all people. We feel desperate, like we can’t turn anything down. We think that if we miss out on any opportunity that comes our way, we won’t have another chance. It’s now or never. It’s this or nothing. It is reactive, not proactive.

Abundance, of course, is the opposite. We know we can’t be all things to all people and we are okay with niching down so that only certain people will “get it”. We feel relaxed and calm. We’re leading from our values, which means we can turn down anything that doesn’t feel like a fit. We know that if we skip an opportunity, there will always be more where that came from. It’s more like now, or then, or later, whatever. It’s this or something better. It’s responsive, not reactive.

And then we have scrappiness, one of my own core values and something I admire so highly in other people. Scrappiness sits squarely between scarcity and abundance. Sometimes it’s hard to feel a sense of abundance, especially if we’re triggered, things are scary, or we’re at our edge. Abundance feels like too much to reach for, when we have legitimate concerns about putting food on the table or paying our bills.

So instead, we can reach for scrappiness. We can build a bridge from scarcity to abundance by being scrappy and determined. We can take full responsibility for getting ourselves from point A to point B without compromising what we believe in.

Scrappiness says: “I’ll do whatever it takes to achieve my goals, but on my own terms.” It acknowledges that temporary solutions and “bridge jobs” are sometimes necessary, but it never loses sight of the ultimate goal. When we’re scrappy, we take on things we don’t love – not because we feel like we have to, but because we want to get closer to our goals.

Scrappiness is the “third way”. Instead of making our choices from a place of fear, it lets us make them from a place of love. It’s a subtle shift, but it makes all the difference in the world.