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Project 365: Weeks 41 to 45

Whoa girl, it’s been a while since I posted my Project 365 photos. Don’t worry, I haven’t fallen off this wagon quite yet! That being said, I am really excited to be finished this project. I think it’s been real, and great to take a photo of something every single day – it forces me to look hard at my environment and try to find some beauty in the everyday. Atthe same time, I think it’s natural to have some “off days” where things just are a little boring or a little busy, just because they are. The whole is greater than the sum of its parts. I am planning on having another, vaguer photo goal for 2013: take as many photos of beauty as you possibly can, do a weekly roundup. I like goals that can come together over a slightly longer period of time (like the cake goal!) and that don’t have to be done every single day. I’ve at times found this goal a little suffocating. But my photography has improved! So that’s the best.

Happy Thursday!

Ps. A few links:

  • I was immediately into this computer wallpaper from LinkWithLove as soon as I saw it. December promises to be completely crazy, so having a (cute, graphic) calendar close at hand seemed like a very good idea.
  • One perk of my hair having grown (way) out is going to be trying these holiday hair tutorials from A Cup of Jo.
  • I’ve been using this pattern to make some cozy handwarmers. I’ve made one so far!

 

Read This Book: Tiny Beautiful Things by Cheryl Strayed

Reading this book was practically a religious experience (and trust – I do not have those very often!). I read it in one sitting, which despite my love of books, does not often happen. I barely moved out of my bed for hours – hours that I barely noticed passing. Strangest part is, it’s not even fiction! Usually it’s novels that pull me in this much, but I think it must be the wonderful storytelling that this book is packed with that hooked me.

This book by Cheryl Strayed was a nominee for best 2012 nonfiction book on GoodReads this year, and I put it on my to-read list without thinking too much of it. I almost feel lucky that I decided to check it out of the library, because (*cheesiness alert*) I hate to think that I might not have read this book. I’m serious! It was exactly what I needed to read, exactly when I needed to read it. As a twenty-one-year-old who is weeks away from finishing her second-last undergraduate semester, this book was a salve and an inspiration. I know I sound totally cuckoo, and maybe I am, but it left a huge impression on me.

The book is a collection of the letters and answers to an online advice column called Dear Sugar. The questions range from coping with jealousy to dealing with rejection to leaving relationships to insecurities of all types to learning how to love again to facing reality. Those stories are all very interesting. But my favourite part is reading her answers, because they aren’t just answers. Yes, there’s wisdom (buckets of it), and many simple, simple truths (that everyone needs to hear, I think). But what makes this book so special is how the author weaves in the stories of her own sadness, despair, heartbreak, resilience, happiness, love, and strength. Reading these conversations is like a glimpse into the real, accessible, relatable world. The advice she gives is like a DIY guide to being a strong, healthy, capable adult.

I filled a few pages in my notebook with quotes from this book, and I am going to buy my own copy soon. I am thinking of giving this book as a gift to my close friends this Christmas – it’s that good, people! It’s one of those books that should be required reading, you know? Okay, happy Monday you beautiful souls – let’s all go and be better people today, shall we? xo.

(ps. get it here, if you’re interested)

Read This Book: Come, Thou Tortoise by Jessica Grant

The simple fact that we’ve done book club more than once means that I’m calling the endeavour a huge success. Neither time were we more than 4 people, but I’m going to go with the old adage “quality over quantity” on this one. Both our discussions were very interesting, and totally different, since the two books we’ve read so far have very little in common. And this second one, I can safely say it’s far and away my favourite of the two.

How to describe this book? It’s poignant. That’s the word that kept coming up in our discussion. Someone mentioned that the whole book is about grief – it sometimes barely feels that way when you’re reading it, but looking back at it, it’s very, very sad. But it seems also to have a strange glow about it, it’s somehow whimsical and special and happy in its own little way.

The story is about a girl, mid-twenties I’d say, named Audrey, who has a tortoise and lives alone, far from her home, in Oregon. She hears that her father has passed away, and flies home, leaving the tortoise with friends. When she gets back to St. John’s, Newfoundland, she has to cope with his death, and the sadness of both herself and her Uncle Thoby who has always lived with them. It’s incredibly difficult to explain the plot, since there are several flashbacks to her childhood and it’s mainly character-driven. But suffice to say that I didn’t find it boring in the slightest.

The writing is wonderful. As one of our book clubbers pointed out, each last sentence of a chapter is very beautiful and, well, poignant. The writing can at times seem very blunt and straightforward: there are no quotation marks for dialogue, nor exclamation/question marks. Our whole book club, I think, felt that this made you have to engage a lot more with the writing, sometimes having to re-read a sentence to see what sense it’s meant to be read in. And I love the style of writing, because it seems so honest, and while reading you feel as though you’re inside her head (or inside the head of her tortoise Winnifred, whose narrative is both entertaining and touching).

I can’t really pinpoint what makes this book so good. Would it help if I said I nearly cried a couple times, and actually cried at the very end? (I rarely cry at books). Or that Audrey’s sometimes child-like way of looking at the world is so endearing and, at times, relatable? Or that it makes you want to move to a small town and have a Great Safe Adventure with a few special people that you love very much? Or that although it’s sad, it’s also very funny?

For all those reasons, and many more, I adored this book. A review can’t do it justice, but rest assured it’s quite wonderful. If you don’t believe me, know also that it’s won awards and has great reviews. I really hope you give it a chance, it’s a lovely book.

Happy Monday everyone!

Who Needs Feminism?

“Who Needs Feminism” is an awesome project, a branch of which is going on at my school right now.

Who Needs Feminism is a photo campaign, started at Duke University last spring, aimed to start conversations about feminism and its continuing relevance today.

I love that bit about “continuing relevance”. Because it’s my belief that feminism is still very relevant and very important. It’s also my belief that feminism should not be a dirty word, or a scary one. I love this campaign for the way that it brings up so many valid reasons for feminism’s importance in a non-judgemental, unaggressive way. I find it’s such an accessible campaign, it can be read without feeling attacked or blamed. It’s just a wonderful way to get the message across.

I took photos with a few friends last night, and sent them in. Hopefully they’ll be up on the website soon! Until then, take a look at all the other submissions, they’re really wonderful.

Besides the statement in the above photo, I could have said any number of other reasons. Here are some others I was considering:

I need feminism because I pay for cabs instead of walking home, even when I’m totally sober and capable.

I need feminism because only roughly 1/3 of the characters in popular media are female.

I need feminism because there exist subreddits that are devoted to glorifying/fetishizing the beating, raping and even killing of women.

I need feminism because I want there to be more positive female role models in the public eye than there currently are.

I need feminism because women make up only 3/250 top CEOs, 1/22 Canadian Prime Ministers, and 0/44 American Presidents.

I need feminism because I don’t want me or my younger sisters to be held to unreasonable standards of Barbie doll beauty.

I need feminism because I sometimes don’t tell people I’m minoring in Women’s Studies, because I don’t feel like dealing with their looks or questions.

I need feminism because society still preaches “don’t get raped” more than “don’t rape”.

I need feminism because the pay gap still exists! And it is absurd.

I need feminism because people think we don’t need feminism anymore.

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Some of those overlap with submissions on the website, but that doesn’t make them any less true! Also – I’d love to hear your answers. Or better yet, take a photo and submit it either to the McGill chapter or the original campaign.

So, why do you need feminism?

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