Inspiration: November 29

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Inspiration: November 29 >> Life In Limbo

I really liked this interview with one of my favourite coaches, Amy Young, about boundaries, codependency, and relationships.

A beautiful article about the mindset shift that I personally need to embrace for this (and every!) wintertime.

Related: Sarah Von Bargen’s best tips for embracing and thriving during wintertime. So much good stuff here & in the comments section.

So cool to hear the Basecamp team talk about their thought process and experimentation as they launched their new product, Basecamp Personal. I love the way they approached this shift.

I like Notion a lot, and I really enjoyed Thomas Frank’s video about how he uses it for his production schedule. I’m still trying to find my groove with it, but really liked these ideas!

I had a coworking day at East Room this week and: wow. One of the coolest spaces I’ve been to in Toronto, coworking or otherwise. I would love to spend more time there.

I also went to see a student show at the National Ballet School of Canada and it was stunning! They are so talented.

Whoa, it’s been…not the best week. Everything is okay, but it was busy and a little more stressful than I’m used to! So I’ve been self-medicating with romance novels and getting back into knitting in the evenings. It’s working! I’m looking forward to the weekend, which I hope will be low-key and restorative. Wish me luck! I hope you have a wonderful weekend too. xo

Inspiration: November 22

Every week on Friday, I share a list of the most interesting and inspiring content I’ve read lately here on my blog. You can expect thoughts on productivity, happiness, balance, spirituality, politics, and more. Subscribe here to get updates. See archives here.

Inspiration: November 22 >> Life In Limbo

Obviously the most inspiring thing that I experienced this week was Nurture! Go follow Or Har-Gil, Priyanka Saju, Nautica Simone and Victory Patterns to get a glimpse of their magic.

I’ve had a lot of back pain this week after all the dishwashing at Nurture, and discovered these delightful physical therapists who make me laugh and also have great suggestions. Highly recommend checking out!

I just got these microfibre cloths into my life and am INTO THEM. Yay for reusable and beautiful objects. My computer screen has never been cleaner!

I’ve been really liking the newly-launched A Beautiful Mess podcast! I’ve followed their blog on and off for years but somehow like the podcast more. I really loved hearing them talk about their Airbnb plans and their search for forever homes. So fun.

If you like romance novels, you might like this round-up of the best ones of 2019.

Pure joy, right this way. (I am 100% obsessed with this dog and this channel)

This week on my business blog, I’m sharing some tips for handling an evolution in your identity! These tips are designed for entrepreneurs but could help with other kinds of life changes as well.

Most of this week has been spent recovering in one way or another from Nurture – it was intense, to say the least. Powerful, special, life-affirming. Also: tiring and confronting! I am so glad to have experienced it, and I’m so glad to have had some downtime this week to integrate it. This weekend I plan to continue that trend with taking it easy and spending time with my family who I haven’t seen in a while! I hope you have a wonderful weekend too. xo.

Off to Nurture

Today is the day I go to Nurture for the weekend. I’ve been to several of these retreats now, and each time, I return home changed. The first one was the most significant change: I came back, said goodbye to a toxic relationship, and felt my confidence bloom as a result. The others I’ve attended have created smaller, subtler changes, but I always feel calmer and more myself afterwards.

I don’t know what will come up for me this time – things have been less dramatic lately than they’ve usually been leading up to previous retreats. And yet I know it’ll be a big shift because it always is. There’s really nothing like spending time with like-minded, soulful humans to make you take a step forwards in your life path.

No matter what, I’m excited to be back in that peaceful place on the lake, where all you can hear is the noises of nature and your friends giggling inside. It’s just snowed here, so it’ll be pristine, and white, and blanketed. I, too, will be blanketed for much of the weekend! Because while we’ll be hard at work chopping, prepping and hosting, I also feel determined to make sure that Sonja and I both feel as though we’ve had a retreat of our own as well.

We leave at 3PM today, and I’ve consciously cleared the whole day for myself to settle in to the Nurture spirit. I’ll be playing our playlist, puttering around my house, making good food, packing up the last minute items, and spending time reading quietly. Nurture is full-on, so today will be full-off.

Have a wonderful weekend and I’ll talk to you on Tuesday!

Be Realistic

I’m going away this weekend for Nurture, a twice-annual retreat for creative women. This is my fourth time taking part as the “creative producer” which is a fancy way of saying “on-site support staff”. I help with all the logistics, the setup, the food prep, the orientations, and of course making sure everyone is having a wonderful time throughout. It’s beautiful, and magical, and also, yes, very tiring.

I’ve been experimenting more lately with calendar blocking, in an attempt to proactively stop myself from being overworked and harried on any given day. I don’t always remember to do it, but when I do, it works wonders. Today, for example, I have built in tons of rest time for myself, essentially from 3pm onwards, to prepare and get ready for the busyness of the next few days. I also took off all of Monday after we get back!

These decisions are an accumulation of knowledge that I’ve gained from my last few times participating in Nurture. It takes a lot out of me, so it’s important to rest & recover in any way I can. It’s taken me a while to really start protecting my time because I am never realistic enough about my capacity. I have resisted the fact that I clearly need to rest, before and after. I need to have very little to do! I need large swaths of time to recover. Especially as an introvert, this is essential.

I think this is an issue for many of us: we aren’t realistic enough about the demands on our time and what they’ll require of us. We aren’t realistic about how much buffer we need between things. We aren’t realistic about how much time it will take to recover from something. We don’t give ourselves space to breathe and process the events of our lives.

I think we resist because we don’t want to accept our limitations. We’re constantly comparing ourselves to others, who seem to have limitless capacities for productivity and excitement. Our culture makes us see rest and downtime as somehow “less than”: there are no accolades or much praise for taking a nap! It’s up to us to change this narrative. It’s up to us to own our capacity and honour it. So that’s what I’m trying to do today. Do less, so I can do more. Be realistic about how much rest I really need, and then give myself that space and grace. Wish me luck!